I was born a girl and over the few years I’ve noticed changes in my body. Changes that happen in everyone, changes that define growth. I may have pimples, a dry skin, and may other features that may seem imperfect to you. I am not perfect, but so are you because nobody really is perfect. Everybody has their own twisted definition of perfect. Growing up, I was scared of my transformations. When my breasts started showing, I didn’t know what to do. It was scary because most of my friends were male and they had flat chests. I wanted that too. But my mama noticed and she made me understand that it was normal for me to have such. She made me appreciate the fact that I was different from the boys in my playgroup. She even told me of the changes I was to expect and it sounded disgusting, really.
How was I supposed to undergo such when I never knew how to interact with any girls, let alone girls my age? It was obvious I was going to be a laughing stock but she warned me not to think of my transformations in that way. She told me I would notice the changes, she said even she had undergone them while young. I trusted her, I trust her. In school, my teachers spoke of the changes like they were normal. They spoke about them with some warmth and it felt good to be the different from the boys and as time went by, I felt ready for the changes. My menses came years later when I was finishing high school but at this point, I had learnt enough to know what to do.
The environment I was bred in made me ready, made me accept myself, made me love the changes I was going through. My environment gave me the push and confidence I needed to embrace the woman I was becoming. And now, every month I know I have a mandatory date with the universe, and I’m proud of it.
In a tweet by King Kaka, Just a few days ago, a young girl in Bomet, Kenya cut her life short because a teacher mocked her for staining her uniform with her menses. This is so harsh. Why would someone make fun of a little girl just because she is growing? Why would someone hurt a little soul for something that is not even her fault?Nobody asked to have menses, but we all can’t have what we wish for now, can we? And just because we are different doesn’t mean we are not normal. The master has put in play the great distinctions between species. It’s not anybody’s fault that we are having our menses. What the fvck is wrong with this teacher? In a country like Kenya, or any country whatsoever, the education systems have ensured that everyone has to undergo training on the human body and the changes that occur within the human body and the different stages of life. It is so shameful and disappointing that a trained teacher, who has all the qualifications would push a child to an unfortunate ending. It’s so shameful. Such characters should be shunned from the society.
The environment we live in affects our mental health.
Living in a poisonous environment is harmful. Some of us don’t choose our environments, but that does not mean that the people around us should push us down the drain. My mama always says information is fundamental. When you have information, you get prepared for so many things. You get groomed for different situations.
We need to teach our girls to love themselves instead of making them hate the changes that occur in their bodies. We need to encourage them and show them that it is okay to have breasts, it is okay for the hips to broaden, hell it is okay to have menses and that their changes are normal. find more here
There is nothing weird in being a girl. Actually being a girl is just a reminder that you are a masterpiece. You were created to have so many features because only you can handle them. The Master never gives us what we cannot handle. So chin up because you are normal, the beautiful kind of normal, the special kind of normal.
That said, we also need to teach our children, sisters, brothers and husbands the importance of being proud of who you are becoming. Show them that growth is just a mandatory series of events in our lives. Do away with the negative impacts on the young children, especially the young girls who have their menses. Tell them that soiling their cloths is normal because different people have different flows. Teach them how to go about that, provide them with the sanitary towels and boost their confidence.
We cannot keep losing children just because the society is a dampened mess of ignorance and inhumane characters. Teach them the importance of acceptance because only then will they never be brought down by narcissistic idiots. Shame on those who do nothing yet criticize those who actually show concern. The joke’s on you now. Shame. Until next time, teach everyone to accept themselves and be kind to everyone. Make the world a place you would want to live in if you were just another person on it. Stay real.
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